I'm not the anon having the conversation with you about the South Asian thing but, I'd just like to say you can be black and not be of African descent. So if your blog is dedicated to "black" girls like you're saying, black south Asians should be included. but if the goal of your blog is to highlight black women of African descent (which I'm not disagreeing with, it's your blog and your goal, I'm of African descent myself), then I think you should just be careful of your wording.
Yeah I understand what you’re saying. Wording is a complicated thing esp. when it comes to race! I know that you can be black and not of African descent though, so no worries on that.
But at the end of the day when I say black women I’m primarily referring to women of African descent with skin shades from brown to the deepest of black skin tones. I’m a dark skinned Nigerian girl. This is what I relate to and have experienced y’know?
But I’ll definitely watch for wording. Race is such a socially constructed thing that’s hard to categorize and explain :O Like “black people” are all over the world.” I’m not saying that Colorism doesn’t affect so many other cultures because it really does! But the best way I can explain to these folks is to simply look at the women I post. What I’ve been posting is what I mean by black women.
Incidentally, the blog badbrownbeauties is now posting South Asian women due to requests. THis blog was primarily for women of African descent. So annying. Yet when you g to their blogs, we are nowhere to be found.
Lol, they can do as they please.
South Asian women are gorgeous too. But that’s actually a major point. Show me a black girl on a South Asian blog or blog made for non-blacks. I just know that our blog is intended for black women. I’m not changing it! This is for us. :)
Can black people , even the females have Anything ? Sheesh. I don't understand these messages you're getting. If the people feel so strongly about it to message you then they should use that same energy into creating their own blogs portraying what they want. They have no right to try to talk-push they're way into this one.
Lol, I reaaally don’t know. people will always have their own feelings. I mean someone said I was bitter because I only focus on black women, which doesn’t include dark skinned Asians, or the race/ethnicities they’d like to see. As if I just ignore Colorism and the struggles of those in other races!? (so not true). This blog is for black women though. The brown girls to the darkest of black girls. (I hate to get technical with tones) that can include Cubans, Brazilians, etc but always come back to black. This is for us.
i loooove this bloggg <3 As a light skin girl, I'm very envious of girls with dark skin, it's flawless beautiful, I've always wished to be darker since I was young. darkskin girls are truly beautiful. the music is boopin' too. I can't wait for the official site for the wine as wine dark chicks.
I love your blog bc I like looking at all the beautiful dark skinned women of different shades.. But I find it highly disrespectful when people who are a tad bit darker try to put other dark skin people in a different category such as light skinned brown skinned or “she’s not really dark” it’s dumb and just further divide’s our race as a whole. A couple of days ago I had a co-worker who is darker then me tell me I was light skinned an I was Like WTF lmao u can’t be serious just bc I am not darker then you does not mean I do not share the same stigma’s and prejudice as you I find it really sad that people just don’t love them selves at all that they have to say these things. Every thing is not a competition who’s darker then who. People need to stop looking for validation in other people for them to love them selves that includes tumblr, men, magazines, society and people in general if you don’t love your self first it doesn’t matter what others say. I just wanted to get that off my chest bc of what happen to me this week an because I see people writing to you saying oh so an so is not really dark skin. An I think those people are missing the point
I know and agree wholeheartedly with what your saying. Like the last girl on ask saying she felt alone in her skin color because she was “Alek Wek Dark”. I told her that her black is black. Which is true for what you just said as well. I don’t like the “competition” either! I don’t think we should ignore our shades. B/c some people will actually go as far as saying they see no difference between Alek Wek’s shade and Nia Long, for example. It’s like “C’mon I know you see that.” The last people who should pretend to be color blind, are people of color.
We shouldn’t ignore what’s clear but that’s not a pass to act like all these varying shades don’t make us ALL BLACK. The beauty of being black is having that diversity and not being so cut out! We have to find unity in our differences. Come together because we acknowledge that, appearance-wise we are one flexible race with so many unique attributes.
And light, dark, “carmel,” “honey toasted,” “mocha brown,” “cinnamon sprinkle,” it doesn’t matter. If you’re black you’re black, and you’re right we all do have the same prejudices and stigmas as blacks. Even white people see all our shades and recognize that we’re all BLACK. I’m SMH at your co-worker. People like to separate “naw you ain’ dark!” “I’m not dark, I’m carmel" etc. It’s gross. Self validation really is the first step.
I just have to point out that in the spectrum of people, even the lightest shade of African American is darker in pigment than the non-African. I make that a point to say dark/brown girls shouldn't feel so alone! We are beautiful and should feel proud that any color of Black is being represented in the media. Unite as one people, light or dark. Be confident because Black is undoubtable beautiful and even the upmost racist white person subconsciously knows it and is envious. Love this blog xoxo
Just to piggy back on the recent ask that was posted. I don't consider Kelly Rowland or Nia Long DARK. Like they are dark when compared to women who are of more yellowish tone, but when dark skin girls I think are ones like Lupita or Alek. And just like the other person said, being my skin tone (which is like the one as your icon) people do not recognize you as much. It is slightly depressing. Like I know some guys date black girls, but I always rule out certain guys because of my tone of black.
Noted. Both of them are so gorgeous. It is more depressing how slow people are to really believe dark skinned women shouldn’t be recognized. Especially deep black toned women. It’s pigment! That’s their own stupidity. I don’t believe it’ll be like that forever though. Lol, don’t rule people out because of YOUR tone of black. Rule them out because of THEIR tone of wack!!!! You’re not automatically unworthy or something. But man I wish people esp. men would look for attractiveness and a good heart, irrespective of light and dark.
because i'm so dark, when people speak of dark girls like kelly rowland.. im just like.. meh.. yes she's dark, but more that's chocolate & that's a common skin tone. But i'm DARK chocolate- alek wek dark, & a part from alek i've literally never seen anyone with my skin tone in the the magz or tumblr or whatever. i don't actually have anyone to relate to because my black is not the same
Dark-skinned girls in general are underrepresented. Girls that are your “dark chocolate” dark are even more underrepresented. It’s like there’s this scale. The paler, the more attention, the darker the less attention. That’s looking at the media and such. I can’t lie to you and tell you that you’re skin color is everywhere and you just have to look for it or anything. Generally you just don’t see a lot of deep black skin tones being shown. Especially on Tumblr. But others like you do exist. You’re not an alien or some specimen. Your black is beautiful even if its not constantly on fronts of magazines (yet). Alek Wek isn’t the only model with your color, just the most publicized model I guess. At some point you will find somebody to relate with you with your same skin tone, but until then other black women of all shades will love and support you solely for being a black woman. Especially at WFDC. Your black is black. Period. And it’s beautiful which is really the root of it all.
Take pride in your color. Makes you more of a gem since you have your own unique color.
I actually made this because of your ask, Just a few other darker models. I wish people knew more deep black models, especially from America, but how can we really know when its never discussed? But hey until then